The 3 Phases of Change

I'm Wendy Burch, transformational life coach and intuitive change consultant. 

How do you choose change? How do you know if you can change?

Sometimes change chooses you and it seems the only choice you have is to adapt. Trust me, that kind of change is a gift, though initially it awful. In most cases though, when we can no longer tolerate a situation, internally or externally, we decide to change. When the pain of staying the same outweighs the fear of failure, the pain motivates us to change. Or, when we are so out of our minds bored, we know we need a change. Here are the 3 phases that get you there. 

Phase 1

One day you decide this is it. One day you're ready. Some quiet voice says you can do this. And you believe it. After all, it's been trying to tell you this for quite awhile. So you make a decision, get a plan (or not) and it begins...

Phase 2 goes something like this...

Holy mother son of a biscuit eater, what the H was I thinking?!?!

My personal favorite was always, "I changed my mind". It continues on something like this... What made me think this was a good idea? What made me think I can do this?! Who do I think I am? It's too hard, I'm not strong enough, disciplined enough, know enough, what if I end up...? You fill in the blank... And so sometimes loudly, or quietly, we give up...go back to the familiar; habit, pattern, life.

Phase 3...

    But if by some miracle, you stick with it (or have a great life coach) you get to the other side! And the crowd goes wild for you!!!!

      But that's only part of phase 3. The real phase 3 goes something like this...well that was a fluke...    I'll never be able to do that again... what if I can't sustain it... what if no one likes me now... or likes me for the wrong reasons?

What if I don't really know who I am or how to be me now? It's so uncomfortable!  I made it, but I feel a little lost... Sound familiar?

The real phase 3 is when your change becomes the new normal.

And you love yourself so damn much you know you will never, ever, go back.

And the crowd goes wild, again!!!!!